Theme Song

Recently I learned a friend was diagnosed with a progressive degenerative disease and has lost his mobility. Whenever I hear tragic news, I internalize it into a series of “what ifs”. What if I could no longer move at my quick pace? What if I could no longer play tennis? What if I became totally dependent on another?

I often find myself worrying about the future when my today is really pretty good. Why am I not enjoying what is rather than worrying about what may never be? My life is hectic as I have a life-pattern of taking on too much.  Having completed all my doctoral classes, I am now writing my dissertation, moving from my condo to a single home, preparing several new workshops for clients, and am anxious to reach more women through

As a result of all that I take on, I find myself often worrying. What if I cannot understand the NVivo software to analyze my research data?  What if I do not pass my oral defense of my dissertation? What if I do not like living alone in a single home? What if a tree falls on my roof in the middle of the night?  What if my clients think they would prefer a different consultant, a younger one? What if the idea of SUCCESSTROGEN falls flat?

One of my favorite TV characters, Ali McBeal, had an interesting idea. Ali, an attorney, was bright and convincing albeit appearing before a judge in a mini-skirt far too short for the courtroom.  As a woman she displayed a quirkiness that made her unique and fun. I wanted a friend like her in my life.

One Ali McBeal episode revealed that Ali had a theme song, a favorite song that played over and over again in her head.  When she was feeling shaky, Ali would consciously call up the song from the depths of her mind, providing her comfort when she needed it. Still other times the song appeared unsolicited as if it were a built in defense mechanism to help Ali get through her day. 

Maybe I should have a theme song.  Hmmmm…. how about “This is My Now”, performed by Jordin Sparks, American Idol, season six.  The song is about transforming from being afraid, taking a “step of faith” and “breathing in the moment”.  With “fear behind me, gone are the shadows and doubt”.  Through the words of that song, Jordin assured America that she was stepping out of the past on to center stage, putting her doubts behind her. This was her “now.”

 You may think having a theme song is silly, and maybe it is, even for me.  But, women with high SUCCESSTROGEN levels know that this is their “now”.  They no longer relive their past but have applied the lessons learned to their “now” so they can be  at their personal best today.  Being in their “now”,  these women worry little as they visualize a snapshot of tomorrow.  

I have survived the loss of two grandchildren, a child diagnosed with cancer, a sad-to-the-bone divorce, and being diagnosed with an autoimmune disease I could hardly spell.  The learning from those challenges stays with me, but this is my “now”  and it is pretty good here.  In my “now”, I continually do the things I need to do to stay at my personal best. And in my “now”, planning for tomorrow helps keep the “what ifs” to a minimum.

How do you manage what was, stay with what is, and plan for what may be?  How do you value your past as an important part of who you are today, and at the same time keep your focus on what you do today. How do you remind yourself that this is your “now?”

3 responses to “Theme Song

  1. I have recently been studying Nicherin Buddhism and for me, the resounding and compelling messages is that right here…right now…is the starting point for a wonderful life. I have learned to focus on the present and future. To make the most of the here and now. In the words of Daisku Ikeda; “The greater the hardships one undergoes, the greater potential that exists for one to grow. The deeper one’s sufferings are, the more profound will be the joy one experiences when one triumphs over it.
    The important thing is to advance brightly and strive to be victorious at each moment, right where we are; to begin something here and now instead of fretting and worrying over what will happen. This is the starting point for transforming our lives.”

  2. Love this post. MY theme song is “JUMP” by Van Halen. Go ahead and jump.. you got to roll with the punches to get to what’s real.” Life is so real. Wouldn’t it be nice to have the fairy tale? Or would it? Personally. I don’t strive for that and don’t think it would suit me as a woman. Is life perfect? Not by any means. But, it is my life and my choice to live it as I choose to do. Jumping for joy at that. Thanks Mary Ann for giving me the opportunity to validate ME. ❤

  3. Disney put out an animated film called “Finding Nemo”. The story surrounds a little fish (Nemo) who was separated from his father and conquers a series of impossible obstacles to find him. During this journey he befriends another little fish named Dory. (narrated by Ellen DeGeneres) Dory’s motto is “just keep swimming….just keep swimming………..etc..” And yes, after many trials and tribulations Nemo is reunited with his father. As I go through my life’s challenges I remind myself to “just keep swimming”. This little mantra helps me manage what was and what is. Simultaneously, I work on staying in the present. Stopping in my tracks. Noticing the sounds, sights and smells of what is going on right now. It is amazing what you miss when you don’t concentrate. I love your blog Mary Ann. It helps me to “stop in my tracks”.

    PS: The Cuisinart is amazing — Thank You.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s