I just finished reading “The Soldier’s Wife” by Margaret Leroy. The WW II story on the island of Guernsey is about a woman, Vivienne, whose husband was a British soldier at war. Vivienne was described as an unfulfilled woman in a marriage that lacked passion. As the German’s occupied her island, Vivienne fell in love with a German soldier, bearing the guilt of “sleeping with the enemy” and struggling to keep the secret from her family and friends. At the same time of her passionate love affair, Vivienne secretly provided shelter in her home for a prisoner of war, working with a group effort to smuggle prisoners on to a boat to safety.
The author showed that wartime is an extraordinary time where behavior is spontaneous to the moment, so somehow the reader forgives Vivienne for her affair with the enemy. At one point in the story Vivienne was talking with a Brit intent on freeing prisoners of war. Vivienne remarked that he would be killed if caught helping prisoners. He explained his willingness to risk his own life, “It’s what a person does when their moment comes.” (p 475)
“It’s what a person does when their moment comes.”
For Vivienne, her moment came when the German officer first noticed her. She invited him indoors and took him to her bedroom and began the affair. She had been unhappy and felt unfulfilled in her marriage. Her decision to have the affair would result in her divorce after the war. Also in the story, Vivienne accidentally came upon a starving prisoner of war, hiding in a barn. She seized the moment and risked her life to feed and hide the escaped prisoner in her attic.
As women, we face many defining moments. A young single woman’s moment comes when she learns she is pregnant. Does she abort or give birth? In another example, what does a parent do the first time she finds her child is using drugs? Or, what would you do if a friend called and needed your immediate help but the request is inconvenient? Do you abandon your plans and help? And when the moment to participate in gossip comes, should we contribute to the gossip if we haven’t passed it through Socretes “Triple Filter Test”? (blog, April 23, 2012) Should we have another glass of wine when we know we are driving afterwards? What we do when our moment comes speaks louder than our words or any written list of personal values.
These moments are not easy ones. They often present themselves when least expected, and we are challenged to either do something or ignore the opportunity. I believe we define ourselves by what we do when our moment comes.
Women with high SUCCESSTROGEN levels recognize when their moment comes and they respond to the extraordinary moment and do what they truly feels needs to be done. They act in accordance with their values.
Know when your moment comes.