Recently, I spent several hours in the Atlanta airport waiting for a connecting flight home to Sarasota. Conscious of the fact that I had plenty of time, I walked from terminal to terminal for exercise. While doing so, I passed a woman with a t-shirt that had one word and one word only on it. In big bold orange letters, the t-shirt read “NO!” Nothing more, nothing less–no tagline underneath or on the back of the shirt to better explain her message, just “No!”
I decided not to approach the woman and start-up a conversation, fearing she would say something like “Hey, can’t you read?” but the bold letters stayed on my mind. What on earth did this woman mean? Was she saying, “No!”, as in “Don’t ask my opinion about Obamacare, or “No, I don’t want to legalize marijuana.” or “No, I do not want to give you a dime.” Perhaps she was just telling the world about her generalized negative attitude. Who knows what message she was trying to convey, but clearly she was not interested in meeting me.
While I would not wear a t-shirt that says “NO!”, I bet sometimes I give off the “no–don’t bother me” message in other equally as obvious ways. For example, sometimes I am so focused on my list of things to do that as I am walking about town, my head is down, my pace is fast and determined, and it is highly unlikely that I am smiling. Each of those behaviors send the “No!” or the “do not disturb” message. I may as well be wearing the t-shirt!! While my behavior is not a crime punishable by prison, sending that message is wrong for me. My mission, if you will, is to help others, to add to their personal development, to help them feel good about themselves, and increase their overall happiness. Therefore sending the “No!” any way at all is not in sync with the purpose of my life. When I am not in sync with my purpose, I am not happy and therefore not at my personal best!
If I am true to my mission to help others, then the only option for me is to consciously send a message that communicates availability and willingness to help. Further, I must send that message in everything I do.
I am convinced that we are better together, we need each other to fix the world and comfort one another, and we can only do that by sending the “Yes!” message. Women with high SUCCESSTROGEN say “Yes!” without wearing a t-shirt. They are proactively involved in their families and their businesses to work with others to make things better, to create new products and services, and to impact the world.
Consider the message you are sending, either by the t-shirt you wear or by your behavior. If you are clearly sending the message you wish to convey, then good for you, carry on! If not, then maybe you will consider adjusting your behavior so that you are sending the message you wish to send.