It was early morning, still dark outside with just a few signs of life below, and I was wide awake. The concept of closing my eyes and falling back asleep was out of the question, and so I did what any other normal person would do if awake at 4:30 am. I got dressed, brushed my teeth, and headed to the gym for an early morning workout. No one else was in the gym, consequently, I had the whole gym to myself.
I went through my usual routine, sang along with Bob Marley to “Every Little Thing is Gonna Be Alright”. As I headed out of the gym I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. Oh dear! My work out clothes were inside out! It was fortunate that it was early and no one was around to observe. My inside-out mirror image looked wrong, clearly out-of-sorts. I began to think of other times when I my behavior is inside-out, or backwards.
Surely an example is when I apologize for something I didn’t do, just to be nice. Too often I am in an airport moving quickly from one terminal to another, and someone bumps right into me because they weren’t looking up and didn’t see me “in my lane” so to speak. “I’m sorry!” I quickly announce when actually it wasn’t my fault! The look on their face tells me they not only didn’t own any part of the physical mishap, but they were annoyed at me! Another example is when I find myself defining a solution to a predicament when I have not carefully identified the problem–again, backwards, or inside-out. I need to get better at those kinds of inside-out things. But there is one instance, where inside-out is a very positive thing.
Inside-out is the best when we are talking about happiness. When someone is truly happy inside, deep to their soul, that happiness is projected to all that they say and do. The happiness works its magic from inside to out. My granddaughter, Kira, has that inside-out happiness that is contagious. She is that sunshine, that spark, that ignites the world telling everyone that regardless of what is happening at the moment, they will be okay. I do not think that kind of inside-out happiness is a learned thing, I think Kira was blessed with it at birth. But I do think that you and I can get there if we really want to be happy.
High SUCCESSTROGEN women are happy. They are happy with themselves, their personal and professional lives, and generally see the world as a good place to be. We like happy others, gravitate towards them, and often wish to be more like them. We can be.
We have to begin by defining happy for ourselves, with no consideration to anyone else’s definition. What is it that makes me happy? Once I have defined it, I need to go after it keeping happiness as my goal in all I do. Initially it sounds rather selfish and me-centered yet my happiness directly impacts those around me. Doing the things repeatedly that generate positive feelings within me builds a strong happiness foundation, one that can hold up against most any challenge. That deep happiness impacts our interactions with all others, making the inside-out impact huge. Do not under-value happiness in your life.
You might take a moment on this SUCCESSTROGEN site to review the top Twenty List at the top of the screen, as an initial activity to help you define happiness for yourself. Consider re-reading “Seeking Happiness” (blog posted July, 2011), but seriously you don’t need my help defining happiness for you. You know what happiness is to you. Just say it, own it, and seek it.