While I was working out in the gym today, one of my favorite songs played through my royal blue Beeps: “Grandpa” sung by Danielle Bradbury. In an off-key voice, I sang right along with Danielle as she lamented about how things have changed over the years. I have a bad habit of singing out loud in the gym which may be the reason for the increased use of headsets in my condo gym!
In her soft country voice, Danielle opens the song with her concern about life today….
“Grandpa, tell me ’bout the good old days
Sometimes it feels like this worlds gone crazy.
Grandpa, take me back to yesterday
When the line between right and wrong
Didn’t seem so hazy.”
Those times, long ago, are often referred to as “the good ole days.” People say that “life was simple” then, that families were more intact, and people listened to and spent time with one another. Families gathered on Sunday to share a meal, play games and go to church together. Children grew up in their parents business, carrying on a family tradition. Yes, “the good ole days” seems a fitting way to describe what was so different a long time ago. Danielle further describes yesterday in the chorus by asking questions, as though she cannot believe these things really happened…
Did lovers really fall in love to stay,
And stand beside each other, come what may?
Was a promise really something people kept
Not just something they would say?
Did families really bow their heads to pray?
Did daddies really never go away?
Oh, grandpa, tell me ’bout the good old days.”
Times have changed for sure, and some of those things Danielle sings about such as promises being kept between two lovers, daddy’s staying in their role for the long run, and families bowing their heads to pray together, were indeed reflective of my childhood and yours. Those were the things we held in high esteem. So if we valued them then, why on earth did we let go of them? Why have we not reinstated them and brought them back into our lives???
We want to blame technology for how we live today and how talk about how it has increased our ability to communicate but simultaneously damaged our ability to do so. We want to talk about big business and its impact, the economy and why both parents have to work to support a family today. But I want to blame only ourselves for leaving some of our values behind.
This is my first blog of the New Year, so it is fitting to offer this suggestion. Lets’s put some of those “good ole”values, at least those you feel strongly about, back into our lives. If you are in love, be true to that relationship, and stand alongside your lover through thick and thin. Keep your promises, talk things through, be open about what works and doesn’t work for you. If bowing your heads in prayer is comforting to you and your family, then make it happen, consistently.
Women with High SUCCCESSTROGEN have kept those values in their lives and influence those around them to do likewise. I cannot decide your values for you, but you don’t need me to. You know what you hold as the highest values…clarify them for yourself and others, and begin living them again. Imagine how a groundswell of others restating and living their values would impact our communities, our nation, and our world.!!!Let the “good ole days” be our “good new days”, days filled with clarity around the things we value, and behavior aligned with it.
No one took those values away from our lives, we just moved away from them, trading them for something less satisfying. I for one will move back and capture the important things about living and loving in 2015. Please consider joining me!
Happy New Year and thank you all for reading SUCCESSTROGEN!