“Come on Mary Beth. It’s time to go! Your brother will be home from camp soon.”, the woman said in a tone that indicated she had said it several times before. Her words distracted me from my mindlessness that took me miles away as I worried about how to schedule the surgery needed on my right thumb.
“But mommm-eeee”, Mary Beth said. With her arms outstretched so her mom could have a direct view of her bear. She asked, “Can’t you see my bear is sad? He needs a hug.” At that point she pulled the tattered looking bear to herself, and hugged him with all her might, turning her body side to side, as the bears arms and legs flailed left and right. For a moment there, I feared she would squeeze the stuffing out of him. I couldn’t help but feel envious of the bear and the enormous, warm hug he was getting. I smiled at the little girl and then nodded to her mom as if to say, “Nice work, mom. You have taught her to be caring and loving.” The mother smiled at me, gratefully, as though she is often unsure of her parenting skills. It was in the language of moms, one mom to another. In this very moment, the mom received a compliment that she needed, Mary Beth got the extra moments she needed to care for her bear, the bear received the hug he needed, and I became mindful of the moment, something I needed. We were all fortunate to be there at that moment to get what we needed.
And just then, the little girl took a half step towards me.”Do you need a hug too?”, she asked. I glanced at her mom and quickly added, “No thank you, I’m fine.” I knew I had bailed her mom out of an awkward moment (the “mom-to-mom” thing again). And I added, “Watching you give your bear a big hug made me feel good. He is a well-loved bear, I can see that!”
Her mom nodded ever so slightly, again both saying a lot while not saying anything. And at that very moment I realized I was right there in the moment, taking it all in. So this is what being in the moment means. Women of high SUCCESSTROGEN work at being mindful, of staying in the moment and capturing the learning that is there for them. I am working hard at being mindful, of staying right in a moment in time, but it doesn’t come easy to a high energy woman like me. This moment in time was a tender moment between a child and her bear, a child and her mom, and two moms. The moment was sweet and loving and my worry about whatever I was worrying about disappeared, at least for now. I found that when I am in the moment, gratitude comes easy to me. I am so grateful I didn’t miss this moment.
“Ready mommy!” Mary Beth said as she took her mom’s hand and wrapped her other arm tightly around the bear. Somehow the bear didn’t look quite so tattered as he had a few minutes ago. She glanced back over her shoulder at me and waved. The world was good.
I sat for quite a while after that experience, being in the moment, enjoying the view, the warmth of the sun, and the warm of the almost hug. I watched a gecko climb over my large purse to the other side and had the strangest feeling he smiled at me. I listened to the boat captain welcoming his passengers as they boarded and had a feeling that I, too, was welcomed to the moment. What a nice morning…..I am grateful for the moment and ready to start my day!