When I lived in Sarasota, my neighbor, Carole, and I walked many evenings as an end-of-day last attempt at working off calories. Our conversations covered just about everything: downtown happenings, our kids, diet and exercise, and sharing still another untold story of our personal lives.
As part of her life story, Carole shared a time in her life when she lived in Mexico. Her voice softened as she referenced a fond memory. She said when something is troubling you in Mexico, a friend immediately responds, “Tu no estas sola”, or “You are not alone.” Wow, I thought, I like that. Accustomed to the usual “Oh, I’m sorry…”, I prefer the message Carol’s former Mexican neighbors sent….”Tu no estas sola…You are not alone.”
When we are struggling, we feel alone. Our sense is that no one “gets it”…no one fully understands what we are going through. The very thought of hearing someone remind us that we are not alone adds comfort well beyond those “I’m sorry” words. I like the meaning as well as the sound and rhythm of the Spanish words.
“Tu no estas sola”
Four simple words that mean so much more than their literal meaning. You are not alone means I will be there with you through this, I will stand by your side, and I will provide the support you need until you no longer need to lean on me.
Women with high SUCCESSTROGEN assure others that they will lend support and see them through their challenge. They say words of support and act accordingly demonstrating their commitment to their friend so that she does not feel alone. Women are much more demonstrative in their support of other women than I recall earlier in my life. Hundreds of thousands of us march for a cause, organizations and neighborhoods fund raise for someone in need, and we proudly hold hands with our sisters who need to know they are not alone. We don’t want our friends to feel alone.
Today, my thoughts are with two women friends who need the assurance that they are not alone. This time I will use Carole’s words, “Tu no estas sola!” and I will show them my commitment as I help one get her plan together so that she can more easily transition to assisted living, and another to manage through a medical problem. My intent today will be to convey the feeling, “Tu no estas sola”.
And by the way, in case you were wondering, my dear readers, neither are you, “Tu no estas sola.”